A Spiritual Director … one that guides or facilitates the practice of spiritual direction.
What is Spiritual Direction? Below are some helpful definitions:
Spiritual direction is the process of accompanying people on a spiritual journey. Spiritual direction exists in a context of friendship and emphasizes a deeper, more intimate relationship with God.
Spiritual direction provides scheduled time with a director, who comes alongside and listens with you while encouraging you to attend to the Holy Spirit in the transformation process. (Jon Byron)
David Benner, in His book “Sacred Companions,” defines classic spiritual direction as “an ancient form of Christian soul care that goes back to the earliest days of the church. (It) is a one-on-one relationship organized around prayer and conversation directed toward deepening intimacy with God….spiritual directors… do not follow a standardized curriculum or implement a prepackaged program…. And most important, they seek to help those with whom they journey to discern the presence and leading of the Spirit of God-the One Jesus sent as our true spiritual director. (David Benner, Sacred Companions, pg. 17)
Spiritual direction explores a deeper relationship with the spiritual aspect of being human. Simply put, spiritual direction is helping people tell their sacred stories everyday. Spiritual direction has emerged in many contexts using language specific to particular cultural and spiritual traditions. Describing spiritual direction requires putting words to a process of fostering a transcendent experience that lies beyond all names and yet the experience longs to be articulated and made concrete in everyday living. It is easier to describe what spiritual direction does than what spiritual direction is. (Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International)
Spiritual direction is the contemplative practice of helping another person or group to awaken to the mystery called God in all of life, and to respond to that discovery in a growing relationship of freedom and commitment. (James Keegan, SJ, Roman Catholic, USA, on behalf of the 2005 Coordinating Council of Spiritual Directors International)
Spiritual direction is a time-honored term for a conversation, ordinarily between two persons, in which one person consults another, more spiritually experienced person about the ways in which God may be touching her or his life, directly or indirectly. In our postmodern age, many people dislike the term “spiritual direction” because it sounds like one person giving directions, or orders, to another. They prefer “spiritual companionship,” “tending the holy,” or some other nomenclature. What we call it doesn’t make any real difference. The reality remains conversations about life in the light of faith. There was much to talk about, to sort out in the light of faith in those days when confusion in the Church became a daily reality.
Although spiritual direction has had a burst of new life, it is really quite ancient. Across both the Hebrew and the Christian Scriptures, we find people seeking spiritual counsel. The Queen of Sheba sought out the wisdom of Solomon. Jesus gave us examples in his conversations with Nicodemus, with the woman at the well, in the ongoing formation of Peter and the other disciples. In the early church, people flocked to hermits in the desert for spiritual counsel. Across the centuries we find striking examples in some Irish monks, in some German Benedictine nuns, in Charles de Foucault, Teresa of Avila, John of the Cross, Francis de Sales, and others. Today, spiritual directors (people who guide or facilitate spiritual direction) come from many traditions.… (Marian Cowan, CSJ)
Spiritual direction is not counseling.
Spiritual direction is not therapy.
Spiritual direction is not advice-giving.
Like psychotherapy, it is often offered as a one-to-one or group experience in private sessions with spiritual mentors who have most likely completed extensive formation for the ministry of spiritual direction – it is up to you to choose a spiritual director who has the training, formation and experience that suits your needs. Spiritual direction includes your deity or higher power as a third partner in the process. While it may be appropriate at times to discuss personal and relational struggles in the context of spiritual direction, a spiritual director is not a psychotherapist, nor does the spiritual director provide such services. Similarly, you may discuss financial issues in spiritual direction but a spiritual director does not offer financial advice and any decisions and actions you may take in that regard are done without advice or recommendation, and are purely your responsibility.